Please hear me out before making a judgment. If we look at the stereotype of a modern male-female romantic relationship, the man has to provide the woman with money, gifts, status and so on in order to gain her acceptance. This is known as me+. Psychologically, the man feels and experiences that he himself isn’t good enough to win the affection of a member of the fairer sex. In order to enter the “meat marketplace” he has to pay the admission fee in the form of materialistic tokens serving as monetary proxies. As a person that grew up in the toxic societal environment of “Everybody Loves Raymond”, my views on male-female relationships were contaminated for a long time. In my case it was so bad that I didn’t want children until I started taking an interest in the New Right, Alt-Right and similar movements.
Another symptom of the dysfunctional societal state of modern relationships is princess culture. Young girls are bombarded with messages about how they are princesses and deserve to be treated as such. Entitlement attitudes ensue, often combined with the poisonous influence of modern misandric feminism. Being “nice” to your man by doing housework, making food for the children and other traditional tasks are vehemently attacked as exploitative. Transforming the healthy give and take, mutually beneficial, and sum-greater-than-the-parts nature of traditionalism into a combative zero-sum dynamic is one of feminism’s greatest crimes.
In this environment exemplified by an arid desert where the desire to please, help and simply “be nice” to your partner should be, could acting out fetishes in the bedroom be a sign of healthy relationship dynamics? Acting out the fetishes of your partner (provided you find the specific fetish in question morally acceptable) requires a couple of things. First an attitude of wanting to please your partner and making them happy. Second, a willingness to go outside your comfort zone and make an effort in order to satisfy the desires expressed by your romantic partner. In the case presented here, the specific details of the fetish aren’t important. The principle applies regardless.
Are indulging in the sexual fantasies of your partner principally different from doing the dishes, vacuuming the floor, cooking up a healthy and wholesome dinner? Aren’t they all examples of doing something for yourself through service to your other half? Of course, if you share the same fetish or if you get a kick out of cleaning or whatever, then it cannot be said to show what I’m going after in that specific example. By no means am I saying that fetishistic behavior at the behest of one’s lover is the only sign of a healthy relationship dynamic. But it could be one amongst many others.
In fact, the very fact that I went so far out on a limb to use fetishism as the prime example here could serve as a case study in the atrocious dilapidated state of modern relationships. The contamination of Cultural Marxism, decades of female supremacism masquerading in the guise of feminism, the collapse of our culture and religiosity and so on have make their unfortunate marks.